Thicke and Dirty

BY  |  Wednesday, Aug 28, 2013 12:00pm  |  COMMENTS (9)

miley cyrus and robin thickeThere is something missing from the uproar over Miley Cyrus and her raunchy performance at the MTV Video Music Awards on Sunday night. Robin Thicke, an accomplice who at the very least drove the getaway car and at the very worst hatched the plot, has apparently escaped relatively unscathed.

I’m not condoning Miley’s disgustingly misguided, or obviously confused, behavior. She’s an adult, and wants to be recognized as one. And this is how she chose to go about it. She is responsible for her own actions. But she’s also someone’s daughter. And as the dad of a daughter I say Robin Thicke, 36 year-old married father of a son, is just as responsible if not more. I know… he’s a recording artist who sings a very sexually suggestive song and I’m being naive expecting a certain level of decorum from such people. Yet, I write on…

What the hell was he thinking participating in this crude dance routine with a 20 year-old—a child, basically? To let this young woman feign coitus while bent over on stage in front of him, as children looked on in the audience and at home? This was planned, rehearsed, and approved by Thicke, his people, and those representing Cyrus. Not to mention the morally bankrupt folks running MTV. They all let it go for shock value. I hope Thicke apologized to his wife and son when he saw them for the time after this “performance.”

His song “Blurred Lines” is wildly popular. Clearly the runaway hit of the summer. It’s this year’s “Call Me Maybe.” You can’t drive five minutes without hearing it on the radio. I admit, I not only find it catchy but also find myself turning it up when I land on it in the car. And against my better parenting judgment I endorse this anthem to misogyny in front of my 6-year old daughter. As does my wife. But mainly because after we heard it for the first time we made up a parody to it about our dog centered around the line “you’re a gooood giiirrirl.”

If and when my daughter hears the lyrics for real and it dawns on her that Blurred Lines is no ode to feminism, as Thicke once tried to explain, I myself will probably have some ‘splaining to do. Or worse, when she sees the video. Either the “clean” one or the—ahem—dirty version that features naked women and balloons spelling out a statement about Thick’s pen!s size. (Don’t click that link if you’re at work or near kids.) Classy. I’m no member of NOW, but I’m thinking this song won’t be played at their Christmas party this year. Just a hunch, as it compares a woman to an animal and implores her to have sex with him because “I know you want it.”

Anyhoo…

If I’m giving Thicke the benefit of the doubt, he did appear to me to be at least mildly uncomfortable as this child was grinding on his groin area. Or maybe I was the one who was uncomfortable, and I’m just hoping he was as well. Either way, everyone knows what his song is about. So we can all agree it does not proclaim the most wholesome message. But we who listen, for the most part, like it anyway. We like the beat, because it sounds strikingly similar to a Marvin Gaye joint. We dig Thicke’s falsetto. And we embrace the nostalgia of the Fat Albert-esque “hey hey hey” recited throughout the song. We like it so much that the second it lands in the center of a controversy we all point our fingers of shame at Miley Cyrus, who just might have known exactly what she was doing. After all, the number of tweets about that performance the night of the VMAs rivaled the number of tweets about the Presidential election the night President Obama was re-elected last November. Yeah. If that’s the case, then we should blame her for choosing this way to show everyone she’s grown up. But the actual grown-up  who wrote, recorded, and performs the song is skating.

We bash the girl for being sexually inappropriate, but exonerate the man. We watch Music Television even though it hasn’t been about music for a long time. We love the song even though we know it’s bad. The whole thing is loaded with double standards.

Justin is a husband, dad, and writer who also blogs at Daddy Knows Less.

9 Comments

  1. POSTED BY herbeverschmel  |  August 28, 2013 @ 3:21 pm

    People are shocked by this? When was the last time you watched MTV ? These two clowns dancing and twerking at the VMA’s is probably the tamest thing you’ve seen on MTV since the incessant play of Chilliwacks , My Girl (Gone, Gone, Gone)circa 1982.

  2. POSTED BY jcunningham  |  August 28, 2013 @ 3:51 pm

    “a 20 year-old—a child, basically?”

    —this is nonsense. stop with the faux paternalism. we pack 20 year olds off to war every day. meanwhile, you confess to turning up the volume on a so-called “misogynist” song in front of your 6 year old, and it’s MTV who is “morally bankrupt”. ok….

  3. POSTED BY walleroo  |  August 28, 2013 @ 5:58 pm

    My rule of thumb is, any essay that uses “anyhoo…” is not worth reading.

  4. POSTED BY kindero  |  August 28, 2013 @ 7:10 pm

    Justin, your hypocrisy as a parent and consumer (and the hypocrisy of many like you) is the issue…not the performance. If people marginalized the song that refers to a man trying to “domesticate” a woman (total act of cowardice to use that line and say “it was the other guy”, by the way) and drug use to make the whole “get it on” situation feel better, and the MTV celebrities (deliberately NOT using word talent) cavorting on stage, and instead showed consistency between the talk and the walk, Miley, Thicke and others would have 15 minutes and move on.

  5. POSTED BY jdmannato  |  August 28, 2013 @ 8:26 pm

    One of the true joys of blogging is having your words twisted, misinterpreted, and thrown back at you by strangers on the internet. So thanks to those of you who played your own small part in fulfilling that joy for me today. -JM.

  6. POSTED BY Mrs Martta  |  August 28, 2013 @ 10:26 pm

    I know you want it.

  7. POSTED BY Holly Korus  |  August 29, 2013 @ 8:40 am

    Thank-you to Justin and MM for making me choke and spit tea all over my screen this a.m.

    JM-Well said sir.

    MM- I would make a tongue in cheek remark but fear that would all come back to the strange tongue dealy-doo Miss Cyrus had attached to her taste buds.

    Detroit Rock City and long live Gene Simmons!

  8. POSTED BY Mrs Martta  |  August 30, 2013 @ 8:11 am

    Glad to amuse, Holly!

    But seriously, lots of people are getting their knickers in a knot over the Robin Thicke song, yes, but what about all the misogynistic lyrics in raps songs? Even my beloved Beatles in “Run for Your Life”: “I’d rather see you dead, little girl, than see you with another man.” Or Ray Charles, “Understanding.” I could go on, but the point is that as longs as there have been songs, there have been questionable lyrics. This is nothing new. If your moral compass is in place, there’s nothing to worry about. If it’s not, the cause goes deeper than song song on the radio.

  9. POSTED BY Mrs Martta  |  August 30, 2013 @ 8:12 am

    “Than song song”= “than some song.”

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